My husband won't open up and talk to me.  If something is really bothering me and I tell him about it he takes it as me being mean to him. It's never actually about me. 

    I want a relationship like Midge and Joel Maisel.

 It seems stress, anxiety and the need of help from others can only occur when it's convenient. 

 If you do not "choose" a convenient time you are simply a burden.